"Hello World" for Dating
A Tech Guy’s Guide to Crafting the Perfect First Message
You’ve shipped scalable apps, debugged spaghetti code, and survived legacy tech debt. But when it comes to sending that first message to someone you actually like?
You freeze.
Not because you lack intelligence—but because dating isn't built on clean syntax. It's messy, emotional, human. And if you’re a single man in tech, hard-working, logical, probably a bit over apps that ghost you, this post is your reboot. Think of it as your "Hello World" — not for code, but for connection.
In tech, first impressions are often buffered. You pitch ideas via GitHub issues, not flirtation. But in dating, your first message is your handshake, your avatar, your vibe.
You want it to be clever, but not try-hard. Interested, but not needy. Personal, but not creepy.
And let’s be honest: you've read too many listicles that say “Just be confident!” and you’re thinking, Great, thanks. How do I instantiate that?
Let’s break it down into something you can execute.
Step 1: Stop Thinking Like a Sales Funnel
She doesn’t want a pitch. She wants a spark. A reason to reply. That means your opener should sound like a person, not a chatbot or resume.
Don’t start with:
- “Hey” or “Hi there :)”
- “You’re beautiful” (she’s read that 500x this week)
- “What’s up?” (too vague)
These are like print("Hello") with no follow-up logic.
Step 2: Read Her Profile Like Source Code
You're great at spotting bugs — apply that to detail-reading. If her profile says she loves hiking, improv, or 90s anime, don’t ignore it.
Try this instead:
“You mentioned hiking Machu Picchu. That’s on my bucket list too. Did the altitude hit you hard, or were you just built different?”
Now that has texture. It’s specific, curious, and human. It signals: I read, I noticed, I cared enough to ask something real.
Step 3: Keep It Short, But Not Robotic
This is not the time to explain your five-year plan or past heartbreaks. Think of this like a ping — just enough signal to establish contact.
Ideal length? 1–3 sentences. Enough to ask something, give something, or tease something. Like:
“Your dog has more charisma than most of my coworkers. What’s her name?”
It’s playful. No neediness. A clear call to respond.
You’ve opened the terminal. Now wait for the return.
Step 4: Don’t Be Afraid of Rejection (It’s Just a Filter)
Here’s the deal: rejection is a feature, not a bug.
When you send a thoughtful first message and get no reply? That’s not failure — that’s a time-saver.
Mark Manson would call this polarisation: the right women will vibe with your honesty and humour. The wrong ones won’t. Good.
Don’t try to optimise for “maximum response.” Optimise for authentic matches.enough to ask something real.
Step 5: Have a Life Outside the App
Your first message is only part of the story. When she replies, what you bring to the chat matters more.
If your life is full — with interesting hobbies, goals, ideas — you’ll have plenty to say. If your only source of dopamine is the dating app itself… that’ll come through.
Build your life. Then invite someone into it. Not the other way around.
TL;DR – Your “Hello World” Template
Want a plug-and-play structure? Try this:
Observation + Curiosity + Playfulness
Example:
“You look way too calm standing next to that rollercoaster. Are you a thrill-seeker or just photogenic under pressure?”
Real. Flirty. Not generic. And it gives her an easy way to reply.
You ready to test it out?
Want to Feel How the Right First Message Works?
I’ve created 10 first messages that actually get responses — and instead of just handing them to you like a script…
We simulate them together.
Inside my OnlyFans, I walk you through:
- How each message feels to receive as a woman
- What it communicates emotionally, psychologically, and sexually
- When and how to follow up to keep the tension alive
- And how you can practice using these lines with me in real time
This isn’t just theory.
It’s embodied.
It's feedback.
It's fire.
If you're done sending messages that fizzle out…
And you want to feel what it's like to make a woman light up with one line…
You’ve written code that powers systems.
Now it’s time to write something that moves someone.
I’ll show you how — from the inside.
Start with that first message...And send it.